Posts in category Foster and Adoption

Invisible Illness

Invisible Illness

When my son was only 5 years old, he had his first in-patient psychiatric hospital stay. I was told at the time that he was one of, if not the youngest patient they had ever had. Many people condemned and criticized my decision to seek medical help. I needed help, my son needed help, and […]

Two Peas In A Separated Pod- An Adoption Story

Two Peas In A Separated Pod- An Adoption Story

I am an adoptee. This was a fact of my life that I have always known. I had wonderful and loving parents but something was missing. I have always wondered who, out there, was connected to me. I grew up in the Bronx, New York. When I gave birth to my first child I felt […]

Our Adoption Story

Our Adoption Story

After about 3 years in foster care we were able to grant the one request of our 15 year old foster daughter when we first got her a year ago. ” Please, don’t make me move again, I just want to be stable” The adoption was beautiful. Her birth family and our family have become […]

This is a REAL MOMMA- Foster Care

This is a REAL MOMMA- Foster Care

Her mother texted me the other day, just to let me know that her daughter still talks about me. Her daughter who was in foster care and who came to me at 9 months old. Her daughter who I had in my home for 2.5 years. Her daughter who called me Momma. Her daughter who […]

Top 9 Tips for Self Care

Top 9 Tips for Self Care

Living with depression, anxiety, trauma, and other mental illnesses takes a toll, often in more ways than we realize.  Our wounds leave us fragile and sensitive to the suffering of others. It is not uncommon for those with mental illness to find it difficult to read about certain subjects, view movies with disturbing themes, or even to […]

No Room for Error- On Race and Foster Care

No Room for Error- On Race and Foster Care

~for Freddie Gray No amount of reading or foster care education can prepare you for the sheer terror of being a young white woman raising a Black teenager in a large city. You read up on white privilege, you look to other moms who have experience, you consult with Black friends about hair and holidays and […]

Full Circle

Full Circle

It doesn’t start with me though does it? Both my parents were abused/neglected – My mom suffered incest, sexual and physical abuse…My dad was the last of 8 in a poverty stricken household…He was the “forgotten” child, left to his own often nefarious devices. My parents met in high school and after one abortion, decided […]

Dropping Keys

Dropping Keys

The small man builds cages for everyone he knows.   While the sage, who has to duck his head when the moon is low,   Keeps dropping keys all night long   For the Beautiful. Rowdy. Prisoners.   -Hafiz